Shortly after our honeymoon I phoned my
parents so that they could listen to the storm that was taking place in Joburg.
It had been raining a bit, but it was still so hot in the house that all the
doors were open. Suddenly, the downpour was much more intense and then the hail
came. It bounced into our house and in the chaos of trying to close all the
doors and windows, Flip urged me to stay away from the windows so that I don’t
get hit by big, icy balls of hail. He closed the windows by himself. He was protecting
me. And it opened my eyes.
During the conversation, my mom asked me:
“So, is there a difference between being married and just living together?” And
trying to speak over the cacophony of hail and rain on a zinc roof, I simply
answered yes. There was a mindset change.
To be honest, I thought that it was going
to be the same as just being together, but it isn’t. It’s better. It’s like
some switch in my mind went on and it said “He is now your husband and you
better start treating him that way.” I have fallen in love with Flip all over
and it feels that we’ve had sort of a fresh start. As if the old, sometimes
bad, skin of just ‘being together’ had been shed. We had now started our
forever journey.
There is no getting out of it, like in a
relationship, where, when you fight, you can just say, screw it, it’s over.
Marriage is a forever and ever promise that you made to God, yourself and your
other half.
My mindset not only changed in that
respect. It had changed to mindset of gratitude. He chose to spend the rest of
his life with me and I am grateful. God put us on each other’s paths and he
planned for us to walk the path of life together and I am grateful. This
gratitude makes me want to be a better person, a better wife, for him. It makes
me want to cook, to wash his shirt when he messed on it. It has opened my eyes
to see all the little things he has done and still does for me – like keeping
me away from windows in fear that I might get hurt. I am loving this change in
my mindset.
A few years ago, four guys from Liverpool
sang: I am he, as you are he, as you are me, as we are all together. It might
be words inspired by a psychedelic space-out, but I see it as us being a union
and that this union is only as strong as its members. In marriage, you need to
support your spouse, build him/her up, praise him/her and be their biggest
cheerleader. Vice versa.
I’ve only been married a month and already
I have grown so much because of it. I cannot wait to learn, grow and experience
life with my best friend by my side, forever.
Photos: Kikitography
7 comments:
Lovely story about the hail and your realisation! And such gorgeous pics :)
Love this post, and adore your blue shoes!!
Ahhh jy is so sweet! :)
Julle twee lyk so goed saam!
Dankie dat jy saterdag gekom het!
xxx
I love this post! It is very difficult to explain to someone that it is different when you're married. There is a change in your relationship when you say your vows... a beautiful change. Your pics are gorgeous x
Your dress is gorgeous - nice touch with the little blue-bowed shoes!
Nice sentiment about being married and falling in love all over again. Wishing you many happy wedded years of bliss!
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Such lovely photos! Your wedding pics are just gorgeous!!
And it's so true how you realise that marriage does change it all. I remember our first fight as a married couple. It hit me that I couldn't walk out. I could walk away to calm down but I was committed to him, I couldn't just leave
Eks so bly vir jou/julle - dit klink of jy 'n paar belangrike goed besef het...jy maak my opgewonde oor wat voorle.
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