So this post is about weddings :: the invites

Friday, January 25, 2013

Dead set on having a very intimate wedding, I have often voiced my opinions on guest lists for the BIG day. I believe that you don’t have to have a hundred people to make it big and often threw caution to the wind in my statements. These are some of the things I have learnt about setting up a guest list {for an intimate wedding}.

    Picture by Kikitography aka the guys who are going to capture my special day

1.    Invite the people that contributed to your journey – these are the people that helped your relationship grow, or perhaps even introduced you to each other; the ones who cheered and cried {happy tears} when you said that you got engaged; your close friends.
2.    Invite people who still go through the trouble of contacting you – uhm, so you had this friend from primary school and you see each other at mutual friends’ houses for a party or such, but you never really hear from them, even if you try and make contact – scratch them.
3.    Family doesn’t always have to come first – I would say that grandparents are importantish {I only have one grandma, so can’t really voice my opinion on this one}; then of course your own parents, his parents and siblings. That’s where I draw the line with really-cannot-not-invite.
4.    Aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces, and cousins – Everyone has a cousin or uncle and aunt that live miles and miles away, that you haven’t seen since you were ten, but still feel the need to invite them – don’t.
5.    Invite people that will make the day fun – I have seen this at too many parties and a few weddings, that there are people who don’t want to dance, don’t want to participate in chatter or games, and stare at their watch all evening. They will bring your mood down, so don’t invite them. {I’m all for hooligans, they make everything fun}
6.    Colleagues – just because you see them every day and have decent conversations with them, doesn’t mean you have to add them to your list. They will understand. Except if you are friends outside of the working place, then you best invite them.
7.    The one about kids – If you feel that children will be disrupting to your special day, and that they won’t have anything to do, be easily bored, then indicate politely in your invite that kids are not allowed. Or leave their names off of the invitation.  


What do you think? Am I wrong in my choices?

PS: If you haven't read how the love of my life was proposed, you can catch up here.


Catriona @ Precious Impressions said...

I agree with your list. I wish I put my foot down with my mom. She was a bit bossy about who MUST be invited. Urgh, in the end I feel those people added no 'value' to our wedding. Good luck girl!

Sue said...


Just catching up on all your news, been so bad at blogging...

Love the puppy pictures, I have a real soft spot for staffies - we grew up with one. How does yours get on with your other dog? I've always heard that they need to be the only dog in a home. Does yours sleep in your bed? Somehow staffies always end up in the bed...

Am jealous about the Holi One festival - looks awesomely messy.

And... thanks for the heads up on the butterscotch ice-cream, was just thinking that I need some from Melissas.

Last... Your list for your wedding invites is good. Sounds like you've got everything in order and I'm sure that it's going to be an amazing day, I can't wait for photos. What's the official date? I had 205 people at my wedding and always recommend eloping for the reasons you've already given. Good luck!!

Sue X

Joelle :: Something Charming said...

Looking back at my own wedding, I wish I would have cut the guest list. It gets overwhelming, and I really did just want to celebrate with those closest to us. That being said, there are people who just want a big party with everyone they know to celebrate with them. To each their own I suppose!

Thanks for linking up this week my dear!


Brhea {} said...

I go back and forth about this. Our wedding was about 115 and compared to most of our other family it was pretty intimate (most weddings are 250+). I always say do what you truly want for your wedding and don't look back.

Janna Renee said...

You are very right in all of this, but it's easier said than done! We eloped and we still had people mad that they weren't one of the "select few" that were there. Oh well!

Mrs FF said...

It is your day so make sure you do what makes you happy!!!!

That said sometimes people end up inviting people just to avoid hassles . My cousin and his dad had a huge fight over this, he was of the same opinion as you and his dad felt they should invite so, so and so. Guess how they resolved it - they agreed the dad would pay for any extra guests he invites (weird but everyone was happy at the end of it all)

My one advice would be if something is not such a big deal, just let it slide you have enough to worry about without adding any additional stress element and the last thing you want is unnecessary rifts over little things

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